B'nei Mitzvah FAQ

Your B'nei Mitzvah Date:

Three years prior to the B’nei Mitzvah year, our Director of Engagement, Programming, and Membership, Carol Sleeper, will provide two dates that may be suitable for your celebration. When making your request please keep in mind that dates will be assigned on a first-come, first-serve basis. Due to the size of our congregation, two children may share the same Bar/Bat Mitzvah date, with one celebration occurring in the morning, and the other in the afternoon, services however are not shared. We will do our best to work with parents to find a date that works for their family. In order to allow students to attend their friends’ celebrations we endeavor to avoid assigning the same date to students who attend the same school.

Families will receive their confirmed date in person at a family program that will take place in the spring of fourth grade.

Families who join the school after the fourth grade will be contacted by Carol to arrange a date.

Synagogue Ettiquette:

Photography
Temple Beth Am’s Photography Policy on Shabbat —while videography is allowed in the main sanctuary, we ask that no flash photography take place during the ceremony. Photography and videography should not interfere with clergy on the bima nor interrupt the flow of the service. This will enhance the worship experience for all in attendance. Families wishing to take photos prior to the event may do so one and a half hours prior to the event the day of, or contact the main office to arrange a time.

Flowers
The Bar/Bat mitzvah family is required to sponsor the bima flowers for Shabbat. These flowers are for the beautification of the bima and as such are to be left on the bima. The Sisterhood of Temple Beth Am will arrange flowers for you. Please contact the the Temple office ([email protected] or 561.747.1109) to make arrangements for the bima flowers. 

Food
For information on dietary policy, catering, and holding your party in our facilities please contact the main office. If a room is available, and you would like to hold a Friday night dinner or extended kiddish on the weekend of your celebration, it may be reserved through Carol Sleeper. If you anticipate a high number of attendees, please let the office know so that plans may be made accordingly.

Attire
Appropriate attire must be worn by all who go up on the bima. Our sanctuary is a sacred space and we ask those who enter to dress respectfully.

Cell Phones
The Bar/Bat Mitzvah has worked hard to prepare prior to leading a Service from the bima, please respect them and the sanctity of the occasion by turning off phones or putting them in silent mode, and refrain from texting during the Service.

Announcement in the Scribe
A short biography including a description of your child’s mitzvah project and a picture of your child are due to Margot Hauser, Executive Administrative Assistant, by the 10th of the month preceding the Bar/Bat Mitzvah. Please note that Bar/Bat Mitzvah announcement may also appear in the Jewish Voice and the Temple website, email Margot to obtain deadlines for these publications.

Non-Jewish Guests
Everyone is welcome to join in your family’s celebration.

Special Needs
We believe every child who so wishes, can become a Bar or Bat Mitzvah. Our staff will work with you to accommodate the special needs of your child so that they have a meaningful and successful experience.

Fees

A total fee of $1300 is required of all B’nei Mitzvah families. One half of this fee must be paid at least six months prior to the event. All financial commitments to the Temple must be up to date no later than three months prior to the event. A payment schedule can be arranged as needed.

Included in this fee are the following services:

Lessons with Rabbinic Intern/Music Director, Cantor, Rabbi
Educational Materials
Friday Night Oneg Shabbat sponsorship (please inform the office in advance if you are bringing additional guests)
Saturday morning Kiddish (wine and challah only, luncheon not included)
Set up/clean up/tear down/building fees.

Not included in the fees:
Flowers - for the bima, these are required and arranged through Sharon Rosen - contact the office.
Rabbi’s Discretionary Fund - donation in appreciation is customary
Music Fund - donation in appreciation is customary
Custodian Gratuity- gratuity is customary